Be yourself, worry lesser, be happier!
If you worry a lot about something, carry a thought experiment where the worst you can think of, happens and then see how can that worst happen, and try to avoid letting those things occur which would lead to that situation.
Remember the heavy price you pay in terms of physical and mental health. Chronic stress weakens immunity and thus open doors for almost all and any disease. Mental health worsening will cause you low confidence, loss of interest in the things you already enjoy doing, depression and hence suicidal thoughts, easily irritable, very fragile emotionally and thus vulnerable to being misused by others and so on.
Avoid making decisions in hurry. Gather enough information regarding the topic you're to make decision about, and make a well informed decision about all the probable outcomes.
After understanding a problem, there are two major things you can do,
either you act to solve it if you think you can, else ignore or accept, because there's nothing you can really do or want to do about it. In that case still worrying about it is absolutely futile and in fact harmful for you both physical and mental health as discussed earlier.
Remember the 'Impact Bias ' ? Nothing is permanent. Everything will change. And in the end, truth alone triumphs. So stop worrying about everything you think has happened wrong with you or your loved ones. Victories and losses of yesterday, happiness and sadness due to yesterday , all would fade off or hold much lesser importance in your life later on. You would have different opportunities to be happy about, to celebrate and to enjoy.
Set a limit upto which anything makes you sad or worried, after which you don't care about it. It doesn't bother you anymore foe better or for worse. For example, if you're worried about your favourite team losing matches one after the other and hence its chances to qualify or win the tournament keeps on diminishing, then set a limit like "one more loss and then I don't worry about their anymore. I can't worry more about it, enough"
Most people who look happy are not happy because everything goes according to their thinking, opinion or wishes or all their dreams are not fulfilled, but they are happy because they know, life doesn't work like that, be it for anyone. And they don't trust or feel pity by seeing things happening according to someone else, because they know by their own experience that it's not what it looks like. Things won't go according to their wishes, sometimes they may go but many or most of the times they might not, but only way to improvise the probability of things going their way or nearly their way, is to work smart and hard, try your best and know the relevance of 'Impact Bias ' phenomenon.
Act a bit selfish and don't entertain things which don't help you in any way for better. Don't entertain unresourceful things, people or thoughts. Things which don't serve you for better, if discardable, try to discard immediately.
Know the nature of our mind. It always finds trouble it's always in the process of idenfying worries. But most of the things it asks to worry about, aren't resourceful Worrying about the bad that could happen, would mostly cost you more than it pays you by continuing to worry about it. The biggest fear our mind tries to escape is death, because of many factors, apart from evolution due to society's conditioning.
Due the selfish nature of our mind, problems divide some people, at the same time have potential to unite some other group of people. You should think about it and find your own group, that would make you feel good. If people around you support the idea you believe in, you're more likely to be happy even if there are many people outside that circle who don't feel the same way. So find you tribe, keep updating/refreshing your tribe because know that people who agree you on some thing, wouldn't necessarily agree with you on some other things, unless that too is resourceful to them like the former one( on which they agreed with you).
One of the biggest source of worry in our day to day life can be our attitude of takings things personally
I think it's sign of low self esteem person pretending to be a confident and strong person but actually they are looking as is simply too egoistic and low self esteemed person.
I believe almost every time, the way people behave or react has to do 99% ( a simple intuitively generated no.) with them, how they are feeling and what they rightly or mistakenly believe in at that point of time.
Even people superior than you (in any terms which you give importance to e.g. Some feel superior of being born Muslim or being a Muslim, but I don't give a fuck about religion, be it any, so I don't care about their feeling or mistaken belief of superiority) can be nice and kind to you if they are in good mood or when you're resourceful to them, and people inferior( in your or society's view) to you can be bad, cruel or bitchy with you ( in fact, this is the case most of the time. People who are riding on a progressive mindset continuously, whether below you, or on your level or even above you, would care least about you or laughing on you. It's only people who are on a downfall ( long term or temporary, that can be said mostly in retrospect only) who mock you, laugh on your mistakes, laugh on your trials, or attempt to discourage you from getting better. So why take them so personally and spoil your own mood really badly? Little bit is okay, but then in such situations, I would like to ignore them.
Having resentment never does anything good for your mood, it only worsens your mental and physical health. Hating something or someone genuinely, is a bad emotion, disastrous to the hater, much more than the hated person, especially chronic hating, worse than cancer( not sure if it's am exaggeration).
Weak people hate. They can't do anything about that thing or person, they can't take action to change the reality, but aren't ready to accept it either. But worst is they believe that it was possible to change that reality if somehow action was taken.
Go out, see their are people having worse condition than you, if you are feeling bad by comparing yourself to someone, then you should also compare yourself to the people having worse condition than you. Probably only comparison can beat other thoughts of comparison.
Be yourself, unapologetically but also unhypocritically. You don't need to copy others or do what others are doing. You don't need to follow others. You should do only things based on whether they make you feel good or not, not because it obeys are agrees to what society or someone who's not exactly YOU, remarks you good or bad.
Know that there's no one who can be always right or lucky. Even according to your own principles you can be a fool and do wrong things in the heat of the moment or due to many other hard to figure out reasons. There is always a possibilty of being wrong in long term. But that's not just about you, that's about everyone else who is human, who lives in your country, who has grown up in the similar environment as you who has grown up with similar experiences as you. In fact the more similar identities and experience they have, more likely they are to make the same mistake which you made or about to make.
You're only human. So there are very high possibility of you doing things which others do, you feeling the way, others feel and vice versa.
If you get worried about annoying people , basically if you're a people pleaser then in short you believe people should please you too, you believe that people should act, speak, behave, dress, like or dislike what you like, the way you like. You want to be felt important. You feel that your choice matters more, your way of behaving is right alone. In short, you fear judgement so much, you give those judgements importance, well that's because you yourself judge others too much and feel that your judgement holds important part of the people's life and things you judge. But reality here is subjective. Like, your judgement do hold an important part in people's life, in those people's life who feel like you, judge like you, who have similar set of beliefs and ego. But your opinions hold almost no importance in life of people who are not like you in this term, who don't judge others much and moreover theory know their opinions of other's if futile to those getting judged. They believe only opinion which matters is most is one's one. [ Note: Opinion and facts are not same necessarily. Opinions are important where answer is supposed to be subjective, while facts are facts, irrespective of anyone's opinion, they exist and manifest themselves too, in long term]
